I showed up here with big expectations, curious about what speed dating is really like and hopeful I might at least meet someone intriguing. Now it's 10 seconds into Date One and I fear this was a terrible mistake.
What are the chances of mating and relating after a speed dating event?
I came here tonight with the hopes of meeting my next boyfriend. In truth, I came here hoping for a funny story, something I could joke about with my friends as I recalled the things I do to try to salvage my struggling love life. Apps are exhausting, life is hectic, and I can never seem to attract the type of men I want to meet. The natural solution to this? Attend a speed dating event. As it turns out, speed dating is a bit like the old-school version of dating apps.
My first date
Get your face in front of as many other faces as possible," she tells Elite Daily. I show up to the Muses 35 karaoke bar in Midtown Manhattan on a Friday night, dressed in a gray sweater tucked into a dark skirt with riding boots. Apparently the way this works is that at the end of the night, we can each go online and submit the names of people we want to see again. The first people I meet are two women who showed up together.
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One of them tells me she attended one of these events a year ago and met a guy she dated for a while. Having zero expectations is key, she says. You just have to have fun. A few minutes after 7 p. Date One is in a blue-and-white checked button-down and works in transportation.
What really throws me is that initial question about my hobbies and my surprisingly pathetic response. Next bell rings.
The next date
Date Two wears glasses and works in I. We pause for a moment and look at each other as we let the song play out. Great songI comment, he agrees.
He nods in silence. To my immense relief, Date Four wants to talk at me while I listen intently.
The music seems to have calmed down a bit, which I later discover is because Girl in Charge asked the venue owners to please lower the volume because there is a serious event happening. My date decides to take full advantage of our brief five-minute window together:. Well, then.
He asks me what my favorite Disney movie is, and the best thing I can think of is Dalmatians. The final date of the night works in HR. The moment the event is over, I make my exit. Exhausted, I start venting to my roommate the moment I walk through the door.
As I tell her about it, I start to realize how ridiculous I must have sounded the entire evening. Thank god for honest friends.
I tried speed-dating & learned the most surprising lesson about myself
I confess that I showed up thinking my dates would be the story, but the real narrative was my realization of how exceptionally uninteresting I must have sounded to these guys. For some reason — be it the manufactured setting or my own insecurities — I both oversold and undersold my interests in a way that made me seem totally unlike myself.
Maybe the moment I stop forcing it will be the moment things fall together.
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